If you were to explain impermanence and interdependence to a child, what would you say? For some parents, the topics would be too complex. But on Bodhi Day, which commemorates the Buddha’s enlightenment, these teachings are presented in a way that people of all ages can understand.
Bodhi Day comes from the story of Sakyamuni Buddha, born as the Hindu prince Siddhartha Gautama, and his search for life’s meaning. According to Buddhist teachings, he sat beneath a tree and meditated, awakening to the reality that suffering comes in part from clinging to things, and how letting go can reduce suffering. Bodhi Day, observed annually on Dec. 8, takes its name from the Sanskrit word “bodhi,” meaning enlightenment or awakening.
At the Seattle Betsuin Buddhist Temple, the holiday brings congregants together for a service, lunch, and classes for all ages, exploring how Buddha’s primary teachings of impermanence and interdependence show up in our lives.
Reverend Katsuya Kusunoki points out that while we understand intellectually that everything is changing, we still expect some things to remain the same. For example, in a society that emphasizes anti-aging, we often hear encouragement to stay young. Yet aging happens daily, not just on our birthdays, and no one is exempt.
“I understand people’s feelings but we have to accept the reality that every day, we are constantly changing. Not only myself — even Seattle and the world,” Kusunoki explained.
Impermanence can also put difficult moments in perspective. For children, Kusunoki compares it to a bumpy road: “One day I was fine, but another day I got sick. One day I had some troubles and difficulties, but another day, I had a lot of fun. Nothing stays the same as before. It is why we cherish today and at this moment.”
He also dials interdependence down to child-friendly terms, explaining it through his experiences.
“We can think horizontally and vertically,” Kusunoki said. “Vertically means that because of my parents, great-grandparents, and ancestors, we are here today. Horizontally means because of my friends, teachers, parents, people who are living now, we are all able to be here today.”
Gathering for Bodhi Day is itself an expression of interdependence. Kusunoki believes there is value in coming together.
“I like to say to younger generations, get to know each other, talk,” he said. “Sometimes people have different opinions, and sometimes exchanging our different ideas means we don’t agree with each other. You may meet someone you don’t agree with, but that’s part of the learning process.”
What are some ways parents can help kids experience the lessons of Bodhi Day? Encourage them to:
- Perform good deeds, share toys, or do other acts of kindness (called “Dana”). As a family, make charitable donations of food or clothes to teach generosity.
- Sit for short, calm breathing exercises. Light a candle together to talk about peace and being mindful.
- Visit a local Buddhist center or temple for family-friendly services, chanting, or cultural meals.
